Let's get ready for some serious shift. This is a podcast shifting Inside Out hosted by your quantum shifter Angela McCourt, we are diving into ways to empower and enable a quantum shift. Inspiring topics hacks and guest speakers take us on a journey around authenticity, challenging status quo, personal power and living a purpose filled life. All right, I'm popping in here to talk a little bit more about my book, Love your gifts permission to revolutionize authenticity in the workplace. And today, I wanted to touch on chapter six, which is all about judgment. And it's really interesting, because judgment comes up a lot. Nowadays, it seems as though we're finally acknowledging, becoming a little bit more aware of it. But there's a lot of work still left to do. And in this chapter, I really focus in on judgment of self as well as judgment of others and some shifts that we can make individually and personally and as a group. And also I talk about the impact that judgment has on our authenticity, and how we actually show up in the workplace. And so I hope you enjoy that chapter, I want to really just touch today on a couple of things. So when I say that judgment of self, obviously can impact how we authentically show up in the workplace, this can come down to a couple of different ways, right? So in that judgment of self, a lot of times comparison comes into play. And we no comparison is not always a good thing, typically. But nowadays, it becomes kind of a really big struggle for us, and it can impact our confidence. And so one of the things that self judgment can actually come into play here is when we start comparing what we're able to do, where we've gone to school, how we dress, what we have in our lives, whether it's material things, relationships, or what, and we start to kind of become harsh with ourselves. And I'm going to do another section on chapter eight, which is on self talk. But for right now, kind of honing in on judgment of self, it really comes down to the thoughts that we create about ourselves. And some of this can actually be a defense mechanism. And it's interesting, because I really like this kind of approach of if I judge myself, then others won't judge me or reject me. So if I do it first, they won't have the chance to do it, because I've already done it, right. And so I've seen this so often, in not just the workplace, but in life and in relationships with others. The other thing that I've seen that, and I've also seen myself do this is when I judge myself so that I can motivate myself. And sometimes this can be just to kind of push yourself a little bit further, like you're not doing enough you need to achieve you need to achieve. And it's still this judgment, plain and simple. It's still judgment. And it's still damaging. And so it's interesting, as you kind of take this self judgment, then into relationships, and this is where not only authentically do, we struggle with showing up in a way that gives us kind of that confidence to be able to speak our ideas to be able to sign up for projects to be able to say, hey, you know, this is what I can contribute, but also in relationships. And so when we're judging ourselves in relationships, and we're, you know, either kind of giving ourselves this, oh, well, I'm just probably not the right person, or the type of person that will be able to settle down, I can't build a strong network, I can't become a leader. I mean, there are very strong judgments that literally will hold us back. And that's when self sabotage kicks in to is because we go back and reference those judgments. So it's interesting to look at how self judgment can really shift to self compassion. And when you think about the opportunity to be able to do that it comes down to really recognizing when we're judging ourselves, it comes down to looking at how the humility can be a really great way to kind of get away from having to know the answer all the time, which you've heard me talk about that before, and always being on you know, always having everything buttoned up always being perfect. And so if you're, you know, kind of switch a little bit into the the humility, part of life, and then also some self compassion. It's just a really great recipe to kind of brew it up. And it's a great recipe to start to work through self judgment in the make the shifts section in this chapter, I give you some really great ways when we talk about awareness. It's not just from the mind perspective. So I actually have you go through a process where you really feel it in your body like where does Is the show up, and then challenging the truth of it, and then trying to come up with a new thought. There's also I would say, when you think about judgment for yourself, I also look at this as judgment of like our emotions. So we may feel something and all of a sudden, we're judging ourselves for it. Oh, yeah, that's a touchy one. And that's where between emotions and thoughts, you can get really hung up and ruminating and cycles. And you know, that train brain effect if you allow yourself to stay in that attachment to that judgment. So the judgment itself is easy to release, you'll let it go. Yeah, just let it go. Let it go. And let the emotion be let the thought be, let the judgment go. And this is a really great, I know, it sounds easy. But it is a great practice to really start putting into play and you will find such a difference. And not just how you feel about yourself. But it does impact that self talk, which we'll get into in another session. But it also impacts your relationships, and it impacts how you show up and more of a vulnerable and authentic way. Okay, now judgment of others. Ooh, yeah, this one gets to be really juicy. And here's why. I think a lot of times, we have been so programmed and conditioned to judge others, everybody does it, right. So it's like all over social media, it's all over the media, there's all kinds of judgment of others going on. And it's almost become very normalized. And in reality, who has the right to judge someone else? Nobody, nobody. But we're in such a habit. And that's what I'm gonna call it because habits can be broken. We're in such a habit of judging others. And it could be for as simple as up, I assumed this was going to happen, and it didn't. So now I'm going to make a judgment on this. Like, seriously, that's what we're doing. That is the programming we have going on up here. Yeah. So how about we switch it to a little bit more of the heart, and we show a little bit more compassion to others. Because judgment, in my opinion, is probably besides assumptions, one of the most dangerous things that we can do, as humans, and as trying to become more connected again, which, you know, goes back 1000s of years, we've lost that. If we can get to that point of human connection, it has to shift from this to this and to make the connection. But also, it really comes down to how do we come out of this with having a better approach to connection and engagement with others? Instead of, you know, we talked about expectations before I went through that and another chapter in another session, but how do we, you know, can the gossiping? How do we set expectations that are realistic, and that we communicate so that we're not disappointed? And then we switch to judgment? How do we not use judgment as a defense mechanism? defense mechanism is definitely where a lot of judgment comes into play. And also, then how do we not use judgment of others and that whole comparison thing like make comparison, positive, to motivate not to bring you down, not to bring others down? That's really, you know, one of the biggest things when you look at how all of this is intertwined together, is there is a big opportunity here to really kind of break these things down, break the ties that they have together, and really just kind of gain ourselves back, you know, and going inward really, really practicing from a What am I thinking? What are those thoughts coming up? How can I stop judging myself and others, it really becomes this. Really, like a mindfulness practice is is really where you can break through a lot of this and becoming very aware of it, where you can you can, you know, say look, I'm let Necco know, I'm not going to think that and it's funny because in the book I talk about how I've always been one to just like everybody you know, I've always been friendly to everybody I don't I try not to judge and and even if I had a judgment of someone literally this still goes on today. I would make myself feel guilty about it. Like I would just make myself feel bad because I'm like, No, you don't know what their life is like you don't know what they're about. Is this a projection and that's the first thing you always kind of look at is when you're judging someone else's this because this is how you feel about yourself. And this is one of the things I always told my kids is, you know if somebody's like to you or making you feel bad or trying to you know, you can say oh, you know, those who shouldn't sit in glass houses and throw stones bla bla bla But in reality, here's what I would tell my kids is, you know what they probably feel that way about themselves. And that projection onto you is what is how they feel about themselves. And it's that simple. And so it's interesting, because if we can, you know, kind of break through and break away from this judgment cycle and this judgment habit, I think this is going to give us a lot more opportunity to be connected as humans, from a relationship perspective, how we show up how we work together, how we trust, big one big one nowadays, such a lack of trust out there, such a lack of trust in the workplace, how can we bridge the trust? How can we bridge the connection? How can we bridge the opportunity for people to show up and be able to share ideas that they have without feeling threatened without feeling judged without feeling how you know, they are going to fail, or they're going to do something bad or they're not going to be they're going to be rejected and not approved. And so these are the things that as you start really working on this, you can go ahead and do the make the shift as well for the judgment of others. And you know, the thing, the most important thing is, is don't judge the judgment. Like you have to acknowledge that you're judging it. But don't judge the judgment, it's so important that you just really acknowledge it, and then let it go. Celebrate letting it go. And then recognize when it's tied to something that you're struggling with. So if you're judging someone else, stop for a moment and just look at what am I judging them? What is this judgment? Is this something that I actually feel about myself, so my kids advice, and then working through the challenges that you're having in that area, working through the challenges that you're having in that area, so that you can overcome it, and then you're not going to touch others anymore with it. And then forgiveness, I think, is such a big important part, and especially with self, but also with others. So this is where the judgment loop can happen is when you kind of have this resentment. And it just carries on and carries on, instead of finding this opportunity to forgive yourself and others. And you know, there's also an energetic connection to judgment. In my opinion, I've seen this so many times, I felt this and when I do this work, around judgment, there is an opportunity to really detach from it like from an energetic perspective too. So not just in your mind or in your heart, but from your energetic being as well. So these are all just really kind of quick tips. But if you want to read the book, Love your gifts, permission to revolutionize authenticity in the workplace. And there is a free workbook. It's 65 pages with all of these make your shift exercises so that you can do the deep inner work. That's why this book is called a transformational nonfiction book. So I hope you enjoy it. Thanks so much for all of your support. Love you all.